Good Things Come to Those Who Ask

by Jack Canfield

Asking for what you need is probably the most underutilized tool for people. And yet, amazing requests have been granted to people simply because they've asked for it! 

Whether its money, information, support, assistance, or time, most people are afraid to ask for what they need in order to make their dreams come true.

They might be afraid of looking needy, ignorant, helpless, or even greedy. More than likely, though, it is the fear of rejection that is holding them back. Even though they are afraid to hear the word no, they're already saying it to themselves by not asking! 

Do you ask for what you want or are you afraid of rejection?

Consider this: Rejection is just a concept. There is really no such thing as rejection! You're not any worse off by hearing no than you were before you asked. You didn't have what you asked for before you asked and you still don't, so what did you lose? 

Being rejected doesn't hold you back from anything. Only YOU hold yourself back. If you are told no, ask for what you'd have to do to get it, or ask again at another time when the circumstances have changed. Ask if they know someone else who might say yes. When you realize that there's no merit to rejection, you'll feel more comfortable asking for things. But you may need a bit of help learning how to ask for what you want. 

First, ask as though you expect to get it.

Be confident in your request coming from a perspective that there's no reason why you wouldn't get it. Or they say no, you can ask them why, or what you would need to do to get a yes. You might need to form a better business plan before you will get a loan. You might need to take a course in computers before you will get a promotion. You might need to spend more quality time with your family before you will get the loving support you need. By getting this feedback you are able to make adjustments and ask again with better chances of getting a yes. 

Second, assume you can get what you want if you only ask for it.

You want a window seat? Assume all you have to do is ask for it. You want an ocean view? Cheaper tickets? A scholarship? A better deal? Just ask for it as if that's all you have to do to get it.

And finally, be specific about what you want or need. 

Do you want to make $5,000 more a year? Then don't just ask for a raise. Ask for $5,000 more a year. Vague request produce vague results. Don't just ask for more time with your spouse; ask for a date on Friday night. Don't ask for help on a project, ask for what you want that person to take care of.

Getting a good perspective on rejection and learning how to ask will make a world of difference for you as you work toward your goals. Practice asking and you'll get very good at it! You'll even speed your progress by getting what you need, or improving yourself in order to get it later.

Make a list of what you need to ask for in all areas of your life, and then start asking!

© 2008 Jack Canfield

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Healing Tip - How to Protect Your Energy

Everyone can benefit from using some level of energetic protection, but if you tend to be around a lot of people on a daily basis, particularly with the vulnerable, or as an intuitive or healer, then you should build energetic protection into your daily routine.

You can pick up energetic “stuff” from places and people just by being there, and of course when you move negative energies in a healing you don’t want to take them away with you in your energy field, and especially if you tend to be highly sensitive to energy.

As most of you are aware now, your thoughts are very powerful, and in these times of a tremendous amount of change a consequently, negativity and fear floating around, it is important to protect oneself so you can remain positive through these changes.

When you are able to remain positive and not buy into the doomsday prophecies and fear based philosophies, you have the ability to change the world around you for the better. Remember that your thoughts, words and actions, do invariably affect everyone around you. Negativity is contagious, but so is staying positive.

Protection Technique - The Love Shield

One of the most powerful ways to protect oneself is also one of the most simple techniques. Simply surround yourself with the vibration of pure and unconditional love from the creator.

You can also give that energy a colour – any colour that represents love to you. Let that energy pour in from the Divine, through your crown chakra, into all of your chakras through all of your tissues, bones, organs, cells, molecules, atoms and to quantum level. Allow that energy to also permeate out into all the layers of your aura.

You can also “ask” to have that energy fill you up throughout all time, space, dimension, reality, universe, event, etc. so that it fills all aspects of your being at all levels. Another thing you can specify is for any energy that does not serve your highest good, will either “burn up” or be returned to the light – either way - that energy will be transformed into light so that it can be used for healing. Any energy that will benefit your well being, will be allowed through this shield in it’s fullest form possible and can even be amplified if you choose.

Because your intent is very powerful, whatever you intend, will be. You can add any visual to this basic exercise to make your shield more clear and concentrated as you would like it to be. Also, the more often you practice this visualization, the stronger it will get over time. Not to mention the fact that if you practice this daily, you will not accumulate any unsupportive thoughts or energies.

Healing Tips - How to Clear Your Energy

When we go about our day-to-day business, we can often pick up on energy that may or may not be healthy for us, whether we are aware of it or not. This can cause is to become scattered and ungrounded. Also, if we are taking on someone else's negativity, it can affect our own moods in a very negative way. We need to learn to recognize with this is happening, so that we can prevent it before it begins.

The planet is changing drastically as we move faster and faster towards 2012 and what is known as the Shift of the Ages. Consequently, there is far more intensity of all the emotions than ever before. Those who wish not to grow and evolve, are going into either fear or control / manipulation mode in order to keep the rest of us from becoming the glorious beings of light that has been prophesized for thousands of years.

We are going through a time of great change and upheaval, but we can choose for it to be a process of adventure, growth, excitement, renewal and joy. Or...we can choose the other option. Whichever method of growth and evolvement that we choose, there will still be those who choose the fear-based method. We are even more susceptible to those negative thoughts and emotions than ever before.

If we decide not to take on the "stuff" of others, we can navigate through the labrynth with grace, ease and beauty. If we happen to pick up and take on other people's fear and negativity, there is a way to clear it out of your system, so that you remain balanced and aligned with Creator.

The following is a wonderful visualization that you can use daily to help clear out anything energy that does not serve your highest good.

Clearing Visualization - Light Shower

This exercise can be done, either by visualizing, or while taking a shower, and is wonderful way to rejuvenate yourself as well as clear any unwanted energy.

1) While in the shower, or imagining you are in the shower, feel the water pour down over your skin. Become acutely aware of how the water feels on your skin, the temperature, taste, etc, and how it makes you feel physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

2) Imagine that the water is not just water, but that it is also droplets of pure, radiant light. Visualize all of the colors of the rainbow, sparkling, opalescent and glowing.

3) Imagine that this light water not only pours over top of your physical body, but it also permeates every cell of your body and energy field.

4) As the light and water falls off your body, and drains from you at the cellular levels, it takes with it, all impurities physical toxins from all of your organs and cells, all thoughts and feelings not do not serve you, and any energy that is not yours and that is not in your highest good.

5) Imagine that the water at your feet or in your tub, which is now flowing down the drain, is taking everything with it that was cleansed from your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual bodies, right down to the cellular level.

6) Visualize that once the water and light has fully done down the drain, that the impurities and toxins are now healed, and transmuted into light, to be recycled back into the universe.

7) Note how you feel before, during and after this exercise and journal your experiences.

Visit us at the Expo Latino

We'll have a booth at this year's Expo Latino Festival to be held at Prince's Island Park in Calgary, Alberta.

Come join us and enjoy great Latino music, food, arts, crafts, and of course...US! Doing our usual stuff of Intuitive Readings, Reiki and Ortho-Bionomy. We'll also have some other practitioners doing some cool stuff. Cathy Braun will be joining is with her Fibonacci and Acutonics tuning forks that help you to be transported to a new level of consciousness. We'll also have Sharon Heschl joining us who is a Master Herbalist / Nutritional Councellor, as well as Reflexologist and Raindrop Therapy Practitioner.

Come and get relaxed and energized with us in the sunshine and fabulous music at Prince's Island Park. The weather is looking like it will be very (lots of sunshine and warm, but hot crazy hot) promising to be really great this weekend.

For more info about expo latino, visit http://www.hispanicarts.com/.

Show hours: Friday, 6pm to 11pm
Saturday 11am to 11pm
Sunday 11am to 11pm

Tickets are $12.
Available at the gate (west entrance to the park by Eau Claire Market)

See you there!
Candice

Ask, Trust and You Shall Receive!

Embracing the Changes Within

I'm feeling rather inspired to write a bit about something that a lot of us are experiencing or contemplating these days. Over the past few months and especially this past weekend at the expo, I've observed that there a lot of people going through some major changes in their lives. Either they are contemplating how to make the changes they feel are long overdue, or just starting to make those changes.

The new energies that are coming in these days seem to be almost forcing us onto our true life paths, sometimes whether we like it or not. There seems to be an almost intense urgency for us to get in alignment and start doing what we came here to do. I'm getting big chills through my body even as I type.

Some of us are seriously considering or in the process of leaving our 3D jobs and some are feeling the energetic push to do so. Some of these changes are even being forced upon us by creating situations that make us so uncomfortable that we are almost being given no choice but to walk away.

This is not only what I've observed from the many readings and Reiki sessions I've done with people lately (especially this past weekend), but in my own life.

Some of you know that for the past two years I've been receiving clear messages about the idea of walking away from my own 3D job and walking into my 5D life purpose. I've fought this for two years now out of sheer terror of not having any income to cover my 3D needs. Then along came Metatron: A Matrix of Healing (thank you Elaine!!!), which allowed me to decrease the number of hours at my 3D job, which then allowed the "transition time" that I felt I needed to get my act together. This has given me the feeling of safely so I could move into the 5D career without fear or worry about where the money was going to come from.

This has drastically changed yet again. I can feel an almost electric energy vibrating around and within me that tells me that life will never be the same after this - as tears of joy start to well up, telling me that this is a very good change! I somehow suspect that some of you out in cyber-space may know this feeling of which I speak because you are experiencing it too!

Some of you already know that about two weeks ago, I quit my day job that I had been at for the past eight months, due to some stuff that I won't get into. Suffice it to say, I was "forced" to leave that situation, leaving myself open to bigger and better possibilities.

To top it all off, two days after I quit, a very good friend of ours shared a message from a close family member of hers who passed a way not too long ago. Danard and I were incredibly blessed to have met Patricia a few times, who was the most amazing and gifted light worker I think I've ever met.

Our friend Chris shared with me last week that she got a reading by a medium, and that Patricia had a message for me. She told Chris, through this medium, that I don't have to do any job that I don't want and choose to do. That was it...simple, but exactly what I needed to hear, as that was two days after I quit my job. Me being stubborn, I still wasn't ready take the leap of faith and walk away from 3D jobs permanently.
My original plan was to go back to driving school bus when the unexpected happened.

Danard offered to support me for a month so I can focus 100% on Thunderbird Sky so I don't have to go back to a day job. WOW! This really blew me away. Talk about a HUGE gift, and it gave me the push I needed...

As of yesterday morning (April 24), I had also planned to re-take my required re-training starting today, "just in case" I still needed to go back when the month was up. BUT. I found out yesterday that's not possible, due to being so close to the end of the school year. So much for the "just in case" back up plan. Go figure…

So...here I am, as I think many of you are as well, perched on the precipice and ready to take the big leap into the unknown. Much to my utter amazement, I'm not worried - not even in the least. Ok - maybe a tiny bit, but without the fear this time around. That change, in and of itself is a significant one. Something big must be in the works. Needless to say, I'm pretty pumped about this whole thing, and wanted to share it with you all.

A lot of you out there know one thing about me - that I've had a lot of difficulty in this whole idea of really trusting that the money will be there when I need it, and that I really don't need this 3D job thing. It's taken this experience to force me to trust. I'm also now being forced to walk the talk that I talk about during classes, readings and sessions.

The lesson in all of this - that when the divine timing is right, the situations and opportunities WILL and DO cross your way to get you on the path that you set in motion before you came here. If it hasn't already happened, it's guaranteed that it will soon. We all need to trust that the shift happens when we are ready - no sooner, no later. It may take us years to get to this point, but it does and is happening. And not just to a few of us, it's now happening to everyone. No one is immune to these new changes that are coming in.

As we come closer and closer to 2012, we are gradually or more often that not, not-so-gradually, being guided onto our true paths. Those who fight this process are in for a rough ride. But if we learn to breath deeply and accept these changes with grace, ease and beauty, something I'm finally learning, we will no longer need them to be difficult or painful. The changes can even be joyful and full of laughter and excitement. But this is a choice that each of us has to make. We can do this the easy or the hard way, but regardless of how we choose to shift with the shifting of the ages, it's happening. With or without us.

The biggest key in all of this is trust. Trust, trust, and then trust even more - as I look sheepishly at my keyboard, averting the many eyes of those who have told me time and again to just get out of my own damn way and stop living in fear of the what-ifs. Okay, okay, I get it. Which is why I can now confidently stand on my soap box and say to all of you - If I can do it, so can you!

Oh...and by the way, these changes aren't limited to just our job & careers. These changes are going to be and are affecting every area of our lives - career, relationships, health, prosperity, family, self-worth, life purpose, etc. Everything we have known up to this point in history is being re-wired and re-written. Our very DNA is changing in order to open us up to greater and higher vibrations of light than we've ever experienced before.

Life as we've known it to be up to this point, is a thing of the past as the veil between here and there is quickly disappearing. The sooner that we realize all of this, the sooner that we can get on with the show. And… the only way to ride through these changes… is to strap on our eight foot Angel wings and enjoy the view!

copyright candice creelman april 2008

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A Few Words on Negative Self Talk

Photo: Emoto Crystalized
Water with the words,
"love and appreciation."

http://www.masaru-emoto.net/english/entop.html

On the same subject as the previous post, I would like to specifically talk about negative self-talk and how it affects us on all levels, including physically.

Before I get into that, I would like to get a bit "scientific", which for me is a stretch since I'm your typical artist type (and I prefer that way, lol...). Some of you may have seen the film, "What the Bleep Do We Know." If you haven't, it's sort of a beginners intro to Quantum Physics as it relates to spirituality, and particulartly, to the Law of Attraction. If you haven't already seen, go buy it or at least rent it. It's well worth taking a look.

One of the talks in the film is about Japanese scientist and doctor of alternative medicine by the name of Masaru Emoto, whom you may have already heard of. If you already know about him, bear with me while I give some background to those who have not.

Masaru began to do research on the affects that words and emotions have on water. Through his research he found out that it was when water was in a frozen crystal from, it revealed its true nature. He began to do experiments with water of all types where he would have a drop of water on a slide, with words or phrases typed onto the slide. He would then freeze this water until took on a crystalline form. His conclusions were amazing and something out of science fiction...

When he placed the water next to positive words, the water would form beautiful and intricate designs, but when negative ones were placed, the formations were very ugly and distorted. This result happened over and over again.

Keep in mind, that these were just words typed on paper, placed next to the water. Pretty inoculous one might think. Just by having a piece of paper, which holds no energy of emotion, we can change the structure of water.

Okay...no big deal right? WRONG!!

A Water crystal imprinted
withthe energy of a Dolphin.

Now you add to that, the power of placing an emotion behind those words. Add to that again, the fact that we are made up of 80% water and the fact that we are constantly being bombarded with negative images, words, thoughts from every direction possible (especially in our own minds). Not to mention, the fact that our thoughts, feelings, actions and words are highly contagious...

Water with the words,
"You make me sick, I want
to kill you."

Well...you do the math.

It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out why we live in such in unhappy and out of balance world.

A great deal of research has been done since these initial experiments, and there have been some incredible realizations that have come from it. Namely the diseases that have nearly taken over the world at an alarming rate, namely cancer. Western medicine already knows that stress causes most illesses. Literally we, as a society, are killing ourselves with negative thinking.

Here are a few more of Emoto's photos of how different types of words affected the water crystals for you to ponder as you're reading.

a crystal after it has been
prayed upon
Now...there's no hard scientific proof of this next idea, but if our thoughts and emotions have the kind of power to change our own water / crystalline natures, in the way that the water changed in Emoto's experiements, what do you think those same thoughts will affect our own bodies? All I can say is, "OUCH!" No wonder cancer is the leading cause of death in North America.

Ponder this for a moment...imagine the result of years of some of that harshness and cruetly that we place on our own selves, much less what other think and say about us...add to that the violence in the media and even in our own back yards. Well...It seems to me that its a miracle that we haven't wiped ourselves out completely by now, and doesn't surprise me in the least, that cancer is one of the biggest killers of our time, and getting worse.

Having said that, going back to the previous post and the idea that for every single positive thought, there's 10,000 negative ones that are neutralized...there is hope in all of this! Which makes the challenge I put out there in the last post even more critical. If we all spend some time consciously changing the way we thing, speak, feel and act, this alone, can change the world. If you don't believe me, just try the challenge for a day and see what y0u think...

Water exposed to Heavy
Metal music.
The point is...let's get this message out there in a big way, "When you change your thoughts (and emotions), you change your reality." LITERALLY!!! So, let's change our reality for the better starting NOW!!

Just some food for thought!!!

"Thank You"

Love, Light and Giggles,
Candice

A New Way of Thinking?!?

You know...I've really got to get more on top of blogging more here and give all of you guys a reason to visit lots and lots!

I'd like to chat a bit today about some of the things that have been going on in Tibet recently in the days and months leading up the the Olympics in Bejing. I'm sure you've all heard about the power struggle that is really coming to a head as a result of 50 years of Chinese occupation in Tibet. There has been a lot of violence, much of it being reported inaccurately, if at all. His Holiness, the Dalai Lama has been pleading with his people who are still in Tibet, to continue to practice non-violence to deal with this difficult situation. His pleads seem to be, unfortunately, falling on more or less, deaf ears. The Tibetan communities in Tibet are fed up with the treatment they they have been subject to since the beginning of the cultural revolotion in the late 50's.

This situation in Tibet and China has the whole world in an uproar. What I find most interesting about this is the fact that it has taken an event like this for the world to finally take a real notice of what has been going on for nearly 5o years. I only hope that the leaders of the world start to realize that something needs to be done about the situation, in some kind of reasonable and diplomatic manner.

It can often lead the rest of us though, to feel a little helpless to be able to help in any way, from the other side of the planet. But in my opinion, I think we can all make a difference. Not only for this situation, but for the many other countries, cultures and races who have, or are currently experiencing a similar fate. The best and most important wayany of us can contribute in a positive manner is to not contribute with feelings of anger, resentment or hostility. Not only towards the Chinese, but just in general.

Anytime that we engage in any kind of negative thinking (or for that matter, simple complaining), even if it is about the really small stuff going on in our own individual lives, we feed into the greater consciousness of that same kind of thinking. By doing this, we not only add to this mass consciousness which seems to have kind of taken over, but we exponentially make it worse.

Our thoughts are so incredibly powerful, that even having one single negative thought, that goes out into the ether and spreads like wildfire. Complaining does the same thing. It puts you into negative frame of mind, which in turn, affects your mood, which affects your day and how you deal with situations and people, which can put others into that same mood. Have you ever noticed that when you wake up in a good mood, but something happens like you stub your toe, that you end up spiraling downhill really fast?

So instead, how about spreading a smile and a good sense of humour instead, because without humour, well...I don't even care to think about that, so I won't put anymore energy there, hehe.

One really interesting fact, and some really great news in all of this, is that for every single positive, loving, joyous thought or feeling, it cancels out 10,000 negative ones.

So...with that in mind, it wouldn't take very many of us, to send loving thoughts to the oppressors AND victims (we've ALL been on both sides of that coin...) of the world, for it to completely counteract all of the negativity they put into the world.

How powerful is that? Even just having gratitude for the wonderful things that you DO have in your life. We've all heard about the Law of Attraction by now. Whatever it is you are focusing on, even if its about what you don't want, that's what you get more of. Thoughs become things...and the closer we get to 2012, the faster our thoughts are manifesting.

So...I'm putting it out there as a challenge to all of you who may be reading this (myself included), is to stop the negative talk, thoughts, complaining, etc. There's a website out there (http://www.acomplaintfreeworld.org/) who's message is to challenge yourself to stop complaining for 21 days, which I recommend trying.

But...because most of us have such a bad habit of this, I suggest trying it for a day first...and if necessary, just for an hour. That might be a big enough challenge to start with for some of us. Once you've been successful with an hour, then try two hours, then three, etc. Let's all see how long we can go without one complaint, or negative thought, word or action. Once you've got the hang of not complaining and having negative thoughts, is to replace those with thoughts and words of kindness and love. Not just towards others, but (this is often the most difficult challenge) towards own selves. We don't realize how much we beat ourselves up, until you become aware that we do. We are most often, infitesimally much harder and meaner to ourselves that we would ever be to those around us, even our worst enemies.

Wow...that's a realization and a half!

I don't know if anyone will read this, but if so, I'll be right there along with you as this has been a major challenge for me. Please post comments or questions, of if you're just having difficulty with the challenge and are in need of some support. Maybe together we create a new world made up of happy, joyous people!

In the meantime, I send all of you love, light and most importantly GIGGLES!
Candice

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Starting Over (sort of...)

Well, after an extended perious away from our Blogger blog, we're back. I moved over to another site for a couple of years, as we were having trouble with Blogger, constantly being down. But now...much to my extreme dissapointment, our blogcharm account is no longer. The whole site is down in fact.

No warning, no notice...




I just happened to click on our bloglink from the Thunderbird Sky website to update that blog, and there was this unhappy notice that Blogcharm was being shut down. The real pisser was that the date they listed as being the shut down date hadn't come yet. So, I should have been able to go into my account, and save all of my journal entries, so I could transfer them back over to here.

But no...that would have entailed far too much integrity and consideration for the loyal Blogcharm users.

Needless to say, I was extremely unhappy with this turn of events. There wasn't even any contact info where we could find out if we could retrieve our data so we could have it on file. The worst part of the whole scenario, was that they didn't even have any consideration to send out a general notice before the site went down, so that we could save our files. Just, "POOF", they're gone. ARGH!!!!!

So, to you the faithful blogger out in blogland. Should Blogcharm ever return onto the scene...I heed you this warning...DO NOT USE THEM!!!! That, and regularly back up your blog posts if you don't want to lose them.

Just another Buddhist lesson on impermanence, I guess. Sigh...

Oh well...what can a blogger do. This still doesn't tarnish my belief in "everything happens for a reason". So, I'll just leave it at that, and move on. No point in being angry about something ya can't change. (which I was for a while...but now that I've vented, I feel much better now, lol...!)

Onward and Upward, as they say...

More to come...

Love, Light and Giggles,
Candice